One of the biggest problems facing the modern American fearmonger is the fact that crime has steadily decreased in the US for several decades. Of course, people pushing their crazy opinions and ideas are not bound by stupid things like facts or data! No, instead they just speak from the gut and completely overlook or deny facts thrown in their faces.
Take, for instance, the notion that children can’t do things today that they did 30 years ago, because it just isn’t safe anymore. Never mind, of course, that (in addition to all crime being on the decline) the rate of reported sexual abuse of children declined 60% from 1992 to 2010, and never mind that children are actually more likely to report sexual assault now than they were in 1992. No, we shouldn’t focus on that — instead, let’s focus on how adults are predators that want to rape your children. That’ll help your kids grow up safe and healthy, and guarantees they won’t become habitual alcohol and cocaine users in college, once they have escaped your watchful eye and phone GPS tracker!
Apparently, people are now banning their children from sleepovers. Not sleepovers at homes where the parents don’t know the kid or their family, but all sleepovers — because how awkward would it be to get to know your kid’s friends, or to say no without an explanation to some sleepovers and not others?
I think I’m late to the party since this went viral a while ago (in my defense, it was during the same time that I was being told to hide my boobs), but the article that was brought to my attention is Why My Family Doesn’t Do Sleepovers by one Tim Challies. Challies starts his article off by quoting a book by James Dobson, Bringing Up Girls:
Sadly, the world has changed in the last few decades, and it is no longer a safe place for children. Pedophiles and child molesters are more pervasive than ever.
What I’m saying is, he starts off his article by making up some bull shit that has no basis in reality. It gets even worse when later on, Challies says he disagrees with the notion that pedophiles are more pervasive than ever — but because sleepover molestations were happening just as often when he was a kid as they are now. Never mind the official and overwhelming evidence that it was worse decades ago….no, that isn’t important. Challies gives his personal anecdotes:
As I got older I learned of several people I knew who had been taken advantage of during sleepovers, and it wasn’t a perverse father in most cases, but a predatory older brother or sister or cousin. Sometimes it was even the friend himself. The world was plenty dangerous back then and children were just as vulnerable, but somehow these things weren’t talked about as they are today.
He’s so close to comprehending how statistics and data work, and then just jumps off ship. Excuse me while I bang my head on my desk for a while.
(Note: My son is fourteen and we have now relaxed the rule with him, though permission is still dependent on circumstances.)
First, you’re negating your entire article by saying you do allow your son to go to sleepovers. Why did you even write this?? Second, what a well thought out and good choice!
Fear mongering doesn’t do anyone any good. It gets parents arrested for letting their children play in parks and turns family photos in pedophilia. If Challies can give his personal experience, let me assure you — the smothered, short leashed kids I knew growing up? When they moved out, they did all the things their parents were afraid of…and worse. Good plan!
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